8 Toxic personaliti yang perlu dielakkan...  

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Harini aku terbaca articles menarik dr yahoo.. Tentang 8 toxic personaliti yg perlu dielakkan & dijauhi... Tu pun sbb siri kegemaran aku tgh loading, so take time baca article nih.. hihi...

Kadang-kadang kita pikir org disekeliling kita suma baik2, gembira, open minded, tp kdg2 benda tu tidak sebenarnyer... Bukan apa, lately adalah terbaca entry2 dr blogger2 yg citer psl phd lah, fitnah lah & mcm2 lg...

Mungkin kita pikir kita ni positive, tp kadang2 bla dikelilingi org yg toxic nih, kita pun boleh menjd -ve thinker gak.. huhu..dan kadang2 bila kita ada idea yg mmg brilliant, idealistic kata org, tp bila dok kat kalangan org toxic nih, kita jd cam bengang jerr dan membuatkan kita tak realistic plak ataupun cuma berkhayal jekkk...

Org2 camni mmg memberi -ve impact yg besar pd kehidupan kita..Jom tgk list kat bwh ni yg menandakan org tu di kalangan 8 toxic dan bagaimana nak spot diorg:

1. Manipulative Mary:
Apsal guna nama Mary, ntah aku pun xtau.. These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.
  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.
  • Conclusion : Ni mcm org yg pandai putar belit lah, dia pandai cari reason & pandai nak pusing blk keadaan & kena blk kat btg idung kita..So, takyah nak share sgt hal peribadi kat sume org...

2. Narcissistic Nancy: Nama Nancy plak yerr...

These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.
  • Conclusion : Org mcm ni tak sejahat Puan Mary kat atas tu..hehe, tp tetap nak gunakan org utk jd kepentingan diri dia sendiri... Org camni pentingkan diri dia sendiri, asal diri dia lepas dahlah, tak pikir org lain.

3. Debbie Downers: Pn Debbie mmg suka merendahkan org... hihi

These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic :They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.
  • Conclusion : Org camni tak pandai sgt nak menghargai apa yg kita ckp.. umpama klu kita ckp, "Panas lah arini"..Nnt dia jwb " Api neraka lg panas".. hehe..lebih kurg lerr... tp api neraka mmg panas yekk..sejengkal jek dr kepala kita.. ingat tu!!...

4. Judgmental Jims: Jim ni jahat weiiii....

When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.
  • Conclusion : Org cmni ada pendirian dia.. mungkin pandangan dia ada benda lebih bagus dr apa yg kita ckp kat dia.. gitulah gamaknyerr...

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Ada kawan aku nama Keith, tp baik sgt..idealistic & friendly

Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.
  • Conclusion : TP kdg2 org mcm ni lg lah membkr semangat kita nak buat sesuatu jd lbh sempurna.. pandangan masing2 berbeza2....mmmm......

6. Insincere Illissas: BUkan Juliet Iglissas yekk... haha..

You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.
  • Conclusion : Bahaya org cmni..mcm musuh dlm selimut jekk...huhu

7. Disrespectful Dannys: Mcm Danny X-factor tu ke?? sbrg jerr...sori yek..

These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
  • Conclusion : Xtau nak kata apa...bahaya nih...

8. Never Enough Nellies: Nellie yg tamak.. ekekekekeke...

You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

  • Kenapa diorg jd toxic : You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.
  • Conclusion : Bersyukur dgn apa yg ada...redha je lah... peace no war..!!

All of these personalities have several things in common.

1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue.

2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one.

3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?

Hah?!! Amacam? Dah kenal org toxic tu cmne?? Aku ker antaranyer.. hishh..ampun lah yek... jauhkan....layan jelah org camtu dgn ikhlas hati kita.. hati tak sakit, senang lg ada..Ceriakan idup kita mcm pic kat atas tu... ingat tak zmn2 grad dlu?? Mesti muka masing2 dah senyum...hehe.. ok tu je.. THE END........

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